Saving It Up Or Letting It Go
Culture is usually constructed on control, especially the control of sexual energy.
A despotic and authoritarian government can’t survive without sexual repression.
Minding the brain is OK, but not the heart, and definitely not the genitalia.
Letting go is verboten.
Relaxing is discouraged. Anxiety is encouraged.
Anxiety is the antithesis of sexual excitation.
Sexual excitement arouses feelings and sensations of pleasurable expansion.
Anxiety creates unpleasurable contraction.
Wilhelm Reich (1897-1957) was one of the first therapists to grok this polarity.
Anxiety causes constriction — retention of feces, urine, and sexual fluid.
Seminal retention is ideal for a dysfunctional, uptight, imperial nation — at least for its subjects if not its rulers.
It’s one of the symptoms of emotional withholding.
Some women are empathic enough to enjoy their partner’s orgasm as much or even more than their own.
Kundalini Force is focused and self-absorbed — the Tree of Knowledge.
Cosmodyne Force is expansive and empathetic — the Tree of Life.
Robert Muchembled (Orgasm and the West: A History of Pleasure from the 16th Century to the Present, 2005, 2008) wrote …
“Imperial England had a particular fear of sex because people dreaded its uncontrollable and destructive power. The Victorian age was an ‘age of anxiety’, when anything associated with carnal desire was perpetually surrounded by prohibitions and confusion, even by a sense of danger, ruin and disaster, produced by the feeling of living in a world of pain and difficulty. The cultural and social consequences were particularly serious for women. The unease derived essentially from a sort of perversion of the ideology of accumulation peculiar to the middle classes. It expressed a more general fear of loss, dispossession and poverty. Thus the most common English colloquialism for the orgasm until the end of the nineteenth century was ‘to spend’.”
David M. Brahinsky (Reich and Gurdjieff: Sexuality and the Evolution of Consciousness, 2011) wrote …
“Reich had begun working directly on constricted muscles when he realized that talking to patients and even pointing out their character traits did not always lead to breakup or movement in the armor. He might thus move a patient’s head, bend his or her neck, pinch the shoulder muscles, palpate the stomach, and so on to stimulate movement in the constricted area.”
According to the same source …
“During therapy, patients began to tremble involuntarily, muscles jerked, patients experienced sensations of hot and cold, itching, crawling, prickling, sensations, ‘gooseflesh,’ and so on. As therapy progressed and armor gave way, the somatic manifestations sometimes unified into a complete orgasm reflex in which, involuntarily and spontaneously, the shoulders convulsed with the chest toward the diaphragm, the diaphragm bent or ‘gave,’ the neck also bent, and the head gently dropped back in a posture reminiscent of ‘surrender.’ This convulsion occurred spontaneously and repeatedly in one unitary convulsion that continued until all the tension was released. Reich says that patients who exhibited the orgasm reflex during therapy (without sexual sensations) became capable of experiencing it during intercourse and found that intercourse was accompanied by greater release of sexual tension, more pleasure, and a deeper sense of gratification than if the reflex did not occur.”
Ironically, Reich used “conscious breathing” to assist with “letting go.”
Why is that ironic? Conscious breathing is controlled breathing.
It works, but perhaps pandiculation (prolonged yawning combined with exaggerated stretching) might be even more effective.