One cause of obesity in women is what Adano Ley (Swami Nitty-Gritty) called “Big Mama Syndrome.”
A first-born child put in charge of other siblings puts on “weight” to gain authority.
Obesity has “secondary gains,” such as protection, security, and power.
In the words of …
Hilde Bruch, “Psychological Aspects of Obesity,” A Study of Interpersonal Relations: New Contributions to Psychiatry (edited by Patrick Mullahy), 1949, “The really puzzling aspect of the psychology of obese people, who blame all their misery and failures in life on ‘being fat,’ is their seeming unwillingness or inability to do something about it. Ordinarily, if one recognizes the source of one’s suffering, one will bend every effort to remove it. Not so the obese person. On the contrary, their very reactions to being fat contain all the elements which go toward making the condition progressively worse. If one learns to understand fat people more intimately, it gradually appears that their tremendous size, which they so loudly bemoan, is not without a positive emotional meaning for them. This is more easily recognized when dealing with obese children who say quite frankly, ‘I would want to lose weight but I do not want to be skinny.’ Usually their mothers share the anxiety about losing weight. It seems that in the insecure and unstable relations to the surroundings, physical size and bulkiness convey a feeling of strength, safety and power to the timid fat child. The heavy layers of fat seem to act as protective walls against an outer world which the fat person often experiences as unfriendly and threatening. Sometimes the very unattractiveness of obesity serves a definite emotional purpose. It offers a seemingly obvious reason for avoiding situations which might provoke fear and anxiety. Many fat young girls, though outwardly very concerned about getting married, nevertheless persist in remaining fat because it is a protection against men and sex and the responsibilities of adult womanhood which they dread even more than the disgrace of being fat.”
One friend of mine told me she remained overweight so men other than her husband wouldn’t be sexually attracted to her.
She considered herself too morally weak to resist their sexual advances.
The body language of a bloated midsection is usually associated with visceral “oral” drives.
These include …
(1) the desire for love and sex,
(2) the fear of being deprived or punished,
(3) separation anxiety,
(4) subordination to a dominant person,
(5) hostile feelings of “eating” (eliminating) an antagonistic or hostile person, and
(6) according to Adano, being “strangulated by one’s own convictions.”
RED-FLAG LANGUAGINGindicators influencing obesity include “that’s a weighty matter,” “put your weight behind it,” “stop throwing your weight around,” “don’t be such a lightweight,” etc.